I’m proud to say I just spent a few months clean off Social Media.
There is no sugar, calories, alcoholic toxins or preservatives in any of these platforms; but time away from any screen is a detoxifying experience for both the body and mind.
I observed that the way Social Media works, is almost a paradox. Its intent is to bring everyone closer together, but I can’t help but feel it pushes us apart.
As quality of friendships are sacrificed for quantity, with our finite resources and time, we spread ourselves far too thin. What would be a few deep developed friendships sustained by regular lengthy conversations, can now be replaced by a single scroll of the newsfeed to get all the answers to conversational topics such as “how are you” and “what’s new ?”
Sure it’s easy and we stay well informed. Sure we get the same answers, but the problem is we don’t actually ask the questions anymore.
Social Media is deteriorating the prestige in being considered someone’s friend as it becomes an obligation that technology is making easier and easier to fulfil.
Asking a question directly shows a genuine sense of interest, that as social beings, makes us feel a range of positive emotions that a “like” can’t substitute. These positive interactions are better kept by our memory, and overtime, an affinity for the person keeps developing. Essentially, we feel human and connected.
Personally, I realised that ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ mean very little. So little – and I felt ridiculous for thinking that such buzz metrics were any sort of indication of my worth as a person.
A private text message or having just one person call or wanting to catch up cause its ‘been a while,’ would mean a lot more to me. Letters are in a league of their own; I keep every single one I receive. (Some of the most touching words ever written to me have also become tattoos.)
This is because I know there is a real level of genuine interest – as compared to when someone’s simply pressing buttons out of boredom while on the bus, or more concerned with making an impression on everyone who’s watching the conversation take place.
I’ll acknowledge there definitely is a lot of great things about Social Media: families keep in touch; class mates find each other years later; it’s helped me to connect with other bloggers and readers. I didn’t mention these before as I wanted to explore the negative effects we don’t notice.
And I hope I’ve given you some food for thought. Just think about how Social Media has effected, not only how your friends interact with you; but how you’re interacting with your friends.
I will also say that I’m back on Social Media, but I’ve also changed how ‘I’m using.’
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