Grass can be fake, but it’s no substitute for the real thing. You definitely notice something’s off.
People can act fake. You can fool others, but certainly not yourself. There’s still going to be that ‘something’.
While I find it easy to present the image of being well-maintained and vibrant, others often find it difficult to get to the truth behind the weeds of my whimsical nature. So here’s something I hope you can grasp:
I don’t feel that great.
Today marks one month since I left. Emphasis on ‘I’. I chose this for myself, so I can’t complain. Even if I didn’t chose everything else: being overwhelmed; the homesickness; the unfamiliarity to everyone, everything; and the emotional toll that not having a place to call home for a month takes.
I don’t feel very organic either.
Not many people know what’s below the surface. I worry that piling it all on others would mean losing them. So I’m under the pile, hoping for a hand to pull me out or pass me a ‘shovel’ in the form of a solution. I’d even be grateful to be swept the remaining shards of support from some sold-out saying.
That’s because I’m willing to dig my way out. Like a prize-winning patch, getting the grass to be greener where you stand requires work. It requires a routine. That means attending to pervasive emotions so they don’t get out of hand.
I spend my weeks working with wellbeing and mental health content. I know the tools, I know the techniques; I know I wasn’t using them.
Emphasis on ‘wasn’t’.
Since finding somewhere I feel comfortable in calling home, I’ve taken steps to start laying a proper foundation, sprinkling the right mix of habits and hope. With patience, effort, and self-care, like a flower finding its way through the pavement, I know beauty can blossom from what appears broken.
I feel better – especially after writing and a much-needed phone call.